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‘LESBIAN’ IS A SEXUAL ORIENTATION, NOT A “GENDER IDENTITY”

ANONYMOUS SISTER SEZ:

‘LESBIAN’ IS A SEXUAL ORIENTATION, NOT A “GENDER IDENTITY”

I recently read a statement made by a male transactivist that lesbians should have to ‘prove’ that they are lesbians. He further posited that there is no way to ‘prove’ it. So they must just be ‘transphobic’ and must be ‘obsessed with genitals”. The irony is that he is a straight male just spouting what straight males have harassed lesbians with forever. That women should be raped. All women. And that they just need dick and they’ll be somehow ‘fixed’.

Gays and lesbians are exclusive because they have a same-sex orientation. Stating that they have to accept the sexual advances of the opposite sex stems from rape culture and is homophobic. But that’s what transactivists are saying. They are suggesting that lesbians are focused on genitals and that that is ‘transphobic’. While there really isn’t such a phobia as ‘trans’, it IS homophobic to even imply that a homosexual cannot have a preference for a same sex partner.

Keep in mind that the language of transphobia is stemming from oppressors—overwhelmingly they are the straight, white, entitled male autogynephiles who are pushing for the rape and torture and erasure of lesbians.

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation. WE don’t have the privilege to identify in and out of our orientation.

Gay and lesbian terms indicate ‘same sex’ orientation and this doesn’t have to be ‘proven’ as some transactivists are now suggesting—any more than a heterosexual has to ‘prove’ their sexual orientation. We don’t have to be ‘inclusive’—because same sex, by definition, IS exclusive of the opposite sex.

Lesbian or butch is not a gender identity that one puts on and off on a whim. Homosexuality is not an ‘identity’. People keep conflating gender identity with sexual orientation. Gender dysphoria is a subjective feeling in one’s head. Sexual orientation is not.

It enrages me in this blatantly homophobic culture that so many liberal and middle-of-the-road ‘progressives’ actually think to harass and bully and abuse lesbians who have extremely low status in the grand pecking order, by virtue of being women who love women in the first place. And the abuse is coming from straight AGP males. How is this not obvious?

I mean, what sane woman would ‘choose’ to be bullied, abused, bashed, lose jobs and promotions, be raped and publicly scorned for loving a woman? What woman would choose to be unable to hold her lover’s hand in public, to have to refrain from sharing stories of romance at work and to be unable to disclose aspects of her life for fear of retribution? Homosexuality is an orientation I did not choose and one I cannot identify out of when it suits my narrative.

No, I don’t have to fucking ‘prove’ that I am a butch lesbian to any man. I owe no explanation for who I am, who I love and how I live. Transactivists, genderists, queer theorists, pomo adherents and identity politics fuckers be damned.

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