Notes on the Journey

ANONYMOUS SISTER SEZ:

‘LESBIAN’ IS A SEXUAL ORIENTATION, NOT A “GENDER IDENTITY”

I recently read a statement made by a male transactivist that lesbians should have to ‘prove’ that they are lesbians. He further posited that there is no way to ‘prove’ it. So they must just be ‘transphobic’ and must be ‘obsessed with genitals”. The irony is that he is a straight male just spouting what straight males have harassed lesbians with forever. That women should be raped. All women. And that they just need dick and they’ll be somehow ‘fixed’.

Gays and lesbians are exclusive because they have a same-sex orientation. Stating that they have to accept the sexual advances of the opposite sex stems from rape culture and is homophobic. But that’s what transactivists are saying. They are suggesting that lesbians are focused on genitals and that that is ‘transphobic’. While there really isn’t such a phobia as ‘trans’, it IS homophobic to even imply that a homosexual cannot have a preference for a same sex partner.

Keep in mind that the language of transphobia is stemming from oppressors—overwhelmingly they are the straight, white, entitled male autogynephiles who are pushing for the rape and torture and erasure of lesbians.

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation. WE don’t have the privilege to identify in and out of our orientation.

Gay and lesbian terms indicate ‘same sex’ orientation and this doesn’t have to be ‘proven’ as some transactivists are now suggesting—any more than a heterosexual has to ‘prove’ their sexual orientation. We don’t have to be ‘inclusive’—because same sex, by definition, IS exclusive of the opposite sex.

Lesbian or butch is not a gender identity that one puts on and off on a whim. Homosexuality is not an ‘identity’. People keep conflating gender identity with sexual orientation. Gender dysphoria is a subjective feeling in one’s head. Sexual orientation is not.

It enrages me in this blatantly homophobic culture that so many liberal and middle-of-the-road ‘progressives’ actually think to harass and bully and abuse lesbians who have extremely low status in the grand pecking order, by virtue of being women who love women in the first place. And the abuse is coming from straight AGP males. How is this not obvious?

I mean, what sane woman would ‘choose’ to be bullied, abused, bashed, lose jobs and promotions, be raped and publicly scorned for loving a woman? What woman would choose to be unable to hold her lover’s hand in public, to have to refrain from sharing stories of romance at work and to be unable to disclose aspects of her life for fear of retribution? Homosexuality is an orientation I did not choose and one I cannot identify out of when it suits my narrative.

No, I don’t have to fucking ‘prove’ that I am a butch lesbian to any man. I owe no explanation for who I am, who I love and how I live. Transactivists, genderists, queer theorists, pomo adherents and identity politics fuckers be damned.

As a survivor of severe sexual abuse for the first 12 years of my life, I wanted very much to be a boy. I keep up the fight against genderist ideology because if I was a child now I would be herded into the pediatric gender clinic to be poisoned, sterilized and mutilated.

Not The News in Briefs

There is an argument around the meaning and relevance of the term gender dysphoria since it has replaced ‘gender identity disorder’ in the medical literature. On the one hand there is a push to remove gender dysphoria from the list of necessary conditions to being assessed as transgender in law, but on the other hand the diagnosis is being jealously guarded by trans activists and allies. In summary the attitude seems to be ‘We may not need gender dysphoria anymore but you sure as hell aren’t going to have it either’. This plays out in the outrage shown towards two main groups of women: those who were tomboys as children and who therefore can see the dangers of extreme trans ideology in schools; and those who have teenage daughters who have suddenly become trans-identified with no warning, and who therefore can see the dangers of an ideology which is subject…

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Petition to Apple and Google, regarding Twitter and Facebook

On the basis that Twitter and Facebook use their moderation policies to encourage and abet the abuse of women, and also use their platforms to protect sexually offensive men, further on the basis that Twitter allows their platform to be used for commercial sexual solicitation and the public sharing of extreme porn on an all-ages website, petitioners request that Apple and Google review the suitability of the Twitter and Facebook apps appearing in the Apple and Android mobile app stores. In support of their request petitioners further state the following.

Moderation: Both Twitter and Facebook routinely tell women who complain about death and rape threats, or wishes for us to die, or directives to commit suicide, or graphics suggesting violence against us, that posts of this type don’t violate their community standards. Whereas, saying that, “men are trash,” or calling a male transsexual, or a male who identifies as transgender, “he,” is a reliable way to get banned on either platform if enough people complain.

Both platforms also encourage abusive and disgruntled men to misuse the weighting they give to the number of complaints made, i.e. mass-reporting, to disproportionately punish women for arguing in public, while they frequently ignore quite serious complaints when only one or a few people are concerned. On Twitter, particularly, the company allows their algorithms to be gamed by automated blocking lists, whereas getting added to one of these lists may mean an account is blocked by thousands of people who’ve never interacted with it, but have nonetheless downvoted their acceptability on the platform by signing up for the blockers. Women can get added to such blockers or otherwise targeted for mass reporting, and perhaps banned by the platforms, for stating simple facts about reproductive biology straight out of a textbook, or sharing official government crime statistics demonstrating that men commit the vast majority of violent crime.

Recently, Twitter has begun banning tweets “deadnaming” Ian Huntley. Huntley kidnapped, raped, and murdered two little girls in the UK. In prison, he claimed to identify as a woman, and took the name, “Nicola,” which is the name of the mother of one of the little girls he murdered. Twitter has decided to side with whomever it is who’s going around reporting tweets for calling this twisted sadist by his given name, which is also the name associated with all of the news stories about his terrible crimes, which included his attempts to hide in plain sight by pretending to help with the search for the missing girls after he had abducted them.

Every time this abuse is successful, its perpetrators are encouraged to repeat it.

Sexually offensive men: The most recent such incident pertains to a Canadian man known as JY. Both Twitter and Facebook have banned people for critically mentioning his name, which he uses to do business, in public, on both platforms.

JY has filed 16 vexatious complaints against female beauticians or their employers with a Canadian human rights tribunal, for their refusal to wax his testicles. As the story broke internationally with an article in the Economist and another by a feminist blogger in the US, more stories emerged by girls known to JY in Canada. He had managed a fan page for a girl band, and sent inappropriate messages to fans of the page. He has joined at least one forum for teen girls to talk about makeup, and sent a picture of a lifelike-styled dildo to the forum while pretending to ask for cosmetics advice. He has demanded that screenshots of him messaging women for advice about how to approach 10-year-old girls to help them with, or talk to them about, tampons be taken down on the basis of copyright violation.

JY has threatened people in multiple countries, including the US, for naming him, and has publicly boasted of getting at least one woman banned from Twitter for using the term “he” to refer to him indirectly. He has also submitted vexatious claims of copyright violation against platform users for sharing screenshots of his public posts in order to report on his activities and warn others.

Both platforms have recently acted as though protecting the feelings and secrets of this man should be a paramount goal of their moderation abilities, giving him global power to silence women’s concerns about his activities and influence, and enact retribution on anyone who dares to cross him. Anyone who says his name, anywhere in the world, risks the total loss of their access to the global marketplace of ideas, and any networks of personal and professional contacts they’ve built up there, as represented by these two, US-based companies, with a commanding monopoly on public discussion.

Both companies appear to have decided, independent of being so required by law, to make it a violation of their terms of service or community standards to call a grown man — even one who’s harassing women over their refusal to touch his testicles, and has expressed a desire to see ten-year-old girls naked or perhaps help them insert a tampon — a man, or he. This, simply because he has declared himself to be a woman and added “Jessica” to his public, male, given name.

Companies this dedicated to silencing abuse victims and whistleblowers pose a public health risk, and a particular hazard to women and children. Even if this has been the action of a handful of rogue employees, and even if JY’s posted picture of himself with Twitter founder Biz Stone means nothing of significance, this scenario represents a significant failure of oversight and public safeguarding.

Commercial sexual solicitation and extreme adult content: While Facebook has declared their platform off-limits to commercial sexual solicitation, Twitter remains a heavily used venue for adults in the sex industry to solicit customers, either in their profiles or individual tweets, and also for the advertisement or sharing of graphic video and still photography of live sex acts, or explicit cartoons depicting intercourse, and live and cartoon depictions of graphic sado-masochistic sexual abuse.

As Twitter is a free, public, all-ages site, this content is available for free, to people of all ages who have internet access and can type a search string. While many screenshots exist to back this claim, readers can also just search Twitter.

The culmination of all these concerns may best be represented in the Twitter account of L. Kreut, formerly R. Kreut, who goes by SadistHailey, or Hailey Heartless, on the platform. Even before Twitter announced their policy of banning mentions of the former names of trans-identified individuals, or accurately describing their sex, Kreut led the Twitter harassment of a university and scientific journal over a study into gender dysphoria in teen girls.

Numerous women pointed out that Kreut uses his presence on the platform to harass women, to sexually proposition them or suggest that they pay to become his sexual “submissives,” or “subs,” and to solicit clients for his own brand of sexual sadism and humiliation for arousal. Many people were concerned that he was interjecting himself in this way into a conversation about the psychological health of teenage girls, when his behavior towards adult women is alarming.

Twitter responded to critiques of Kreut’s behavior by banning women who mentioned his old name, and entirely banning at least one account solely for sharing a tweet that linked to a blog post that mentioned his old name. Twitter demanded that users take down posts that showed Kreut tweeting about organizing the harassment of women on the platform and elsewhere, including his own description of organizing an advertising boycott of a Canadian feminist website, and his advice to other men on how to organize similar harassment campaigns against a mothering issues chat board in the UK.

This is another man whose public, known behavior towards women is appalling by most people’s standards, who openly solicits for commercial sex using the platform, and whose feelings and grudges have also been weaponized, with the Twitter moderation team’s willful encouragement, to control the political and public health conversation about the rights and safety of women and girls in several countries.

These incidents — among many other, similar cases that we could outline — are troubling enough on their own. What makes it worse is that the moderation policies on both Twitter and Facebook encourage this behavior and punish women who complain about male harassment, or want to have frank discussions about women’s rights and safety. This is in addition to the well-known failures of these platforms to protect women from men sending us graphic threats and other sorts of harassment, as revealed in a recent Amnesty International survey.

In our experience, these companies not only passively tolerate the abuse of women, and not only have both platforms had repeated problems with inappropriate sexual content being made available to minors, but they aid and abet a hostile climate for women’s free speech and participation in public life.

Petitioners therefore request that these services be reviewed over suitability for inclusion in the Apple and Android app stores.

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Gender-affirming’ treatment for confused children has no scientific basis, medical experts warn court

by Allegra Thatcher   JANUARY 15, 2019

‘It’s an ideological term – this is not a scientific thing’

Medical professionals who study youth psychology and treat gender-confused youth are sounding the alarm about court rulings that they claim put transgender ideology ahead of “sound science” and the law.

The Alliance Defending Freedom filed a friend-of-the-court brief on their behalf just after Christmas, in a K-12 bathroom case being appealed to the 11th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals.

Read More HERE.

Letter Sent to PFLAG Vancouver Regarding Their Trans Protest Against Feminist Meghan Murphy: Some LGBT Community Members Support Her Right to Speak

 

Dear Colin McKenna of PFLAG Vancouver,

My name is Justine Kreher. I’m the bisexual woman, married to a lesbian, who talked to you briefly at the transgender rally against feminist Meghan Murphy(Vancouver BC, Jan 10, 2018). I mentioned I thought the rhetoric that was being promoted by the protest and PFLAG was harmful. The conversation was a little terse, which I regret, as I am sure we both have strong feelings around this issue and want to do the right thing. I have volunteered in safe sex and LGBT youth activism in the past. I previously was a very enthusiastic trans activist movement supporter, as I can assure you, many other people attending the talk in support of Murphy were.

I have some differing opinions to Murphy. I am not a “feminist.” I identify more with skeptical media (podcasts, blogs) than feminism. My opinions on trans activism are informed and well researched. Some feminists often have the more rational arguments than those found in trans activism. Many people have not truly thought out all of the ramifications of it to other people.

I would greatly appreciate it if you, and other members of PFLAG, will hear me out and honestly address why so many women, lesbians, gay men (some bisexuals and trans people) have serious problems with what has been going on with trans activism.

Read More HERE.

Cognitive dissonance, gas lighting and fuckwits

Auto-gyne-FEEL-YA, Baby!

THE TRUTH ABOUT AUTOGYNEPHILIA: WHO REALLY WEARS THE PANTS IN THE TRANSGENDER COUP

In the 1980s and 90s, psychologist Ray Blanchard worked out that transsexuals fall into two main types: homosexual and non-homosexual.

Homosexual transsexuals may be gay males or lesbians. Dr. Blanchard coined the term “autogynephilia” in 1989 to describe the non-homosexual transsexuals, a group comprised of heterosexuals, bisexuals, and asexuals. Asexual, in this sense, means they are only attracted to themselves). Autogynephilia is a self-induced, chronic, progressive disorder that is almost exclusively a male condition.

What’s the difference between transgender and transsexual?

If you’re wondering why we now refer to the transgender movement, instead of the transsexual movement, there are two reasons.

First, “transgender” is an umbrella term that includes everyone from those who only declare they are the opposite sex, but continue to present according to the sexual stereotypes for their birth sex, to transsexuals who undergo surgeries and take hormones to become a facsimile of the opposite sex.

Second, transsexuals won their battle for acceptance in the twentieth century when they persuaded most states to corrupt their ID laws by allowing transsexuals to change their name and sex on their birth certificates. That’s why most proposed bathroom laws use the sex recorded on birth certificates as their standard for who is admitted to sex-segregated spaces.

Most transgenders have an entirely different battle because they want to keep their genitals intact while being socially and legally recognized as the opposite sex. This includes autogynephiles.

Sexual fetishes and autogynephilia

The boys who will become autogynephiles as adults cannot be distinguished as transgender in childhood, as teens, as adults—not ever, unless they are caught or they come out. Most are rough-and-tumble boys. At puberty, they become sexually attracted to girls. As adults, they usually marry and have children, sometimes several children, if they have a pregnancy fetish, which is common among autogynephiles.

Sexual fetishes occur almost exclusively in men, and men who have one sexual fetish usually have several, according to psychologist J. Michael Bailey, in his paper, “What Many Transgender Activists Don’t Want You to Know: And Why You Should Know It Anyway.”

Speaking of fetishes, British transsexual Miranda Yardley, who campaigns courageously for transgender-identified men to admit they are men and stop trying to define themselves as women, explains the four types of autogynephilia in the Blanchard typology: transvestic, behavioral, physiological, and anatomic.

Those four types translate to autogynephiles who are sexually aroused by various combinations of dressing as women; behaving according to their fantasy of how women behave; fantasies of having female body functions such as periods, PMS, and pregnancy (which are also transgender porn genres); and anatomic, which is fantasies of having female body parts, such as breasts.

What are the stages of autogynephilia?

The seeds of autogynephilia are sown shortly after puberty when a teenage boy realizes he is aroused by female undergarments, usually belonging to his mother or sister. When he has the privacy to do so, he steals the undergarments, strips naked, and masturbates while looking at himself in the mirror. This becomes a ritual and by his mid-twenties the effect is that his primary sexual and romantic feelings are directed at the thought or image of himself as a woman.

As the autogynephile continues his masturbation ritual and elaborates on it in his thirties and forties, he begins to think he IS a woman. Anne Lawrence, an autogynephile, psychologist, sexologist, and anesthesiologist, who writes about autogynephilia, calls this process, “becoming what we love,” since the autogynephile has both sexual and romantic feelings toward the image or thought of himself as a woman.

Dr. Lawrence notes that the rates of autogynephilia are highest in individualistic countries and lowest in collectivist ones. Although he doesn’t make this connection, I think it’s reasonable to look into whether teenage boys with lots of privacy and idle time are most likely to succumb.

By his thirties, the autogynephile goes out dressed as a woman to be admired in public by others. He is sexually aroused by entering spaces reserved for women, not just because of his sexual attraction to women, but also because he enjoys forcing women to confirm his fantasy that he is female. He is gleeful that the crime he is committing is just being there.

It is likely that the old timetable for the stages of progression of autogynephilia no longer holds. Now teenage boys and young adult males are coming out as autogynephiles in social media, although they weasel out of saying so by claiming they are lesbians instead.

Then they heap insult on injury by demanding that real lesbians have sex with them because it will validate their fantasy that they are women, although that’s not the way they put it. They say lesbians must have sex with them to prove they are not transphobic.

Threats to call someone transphobic are an important weapon for silencing opposition to the transgender coup. Transgender activists have made accusations of “transphobia” grounds for getting fired from your job, and they bombard the employers of their targets with complaints.

Autogynephiles tend to not take “no” for an answer when they demand sex from lesbians. They denounce being sexually rejected by lesbians as the “cotton ceiling” and call lesbians “vagina fetishists” for refusing their “lady dicks.” They tell lesbians they have a duty as feminists to include men in the definition of lesbian and have sex with them. They chant, “Trans women ARE women.”

But trans women are not women. Trans women are transgender-identified men. They are facsimiles in a facsimile group, which is posing as a rights movement to commit rights piracy on women.

Why the narcissistic rage of autogynephiles explains the tactics of transgender activists

Autogynephiles are using a wide array of weapons to impose their will that the world must legally and socially affirm they are women. Dr. Lawrence locates their most potent weapon of all—narcissistic rage:

In the case of nonhomosexual [male-to-female] transsexuals, this unrealistic sense of self [characteristic of persons with narcissistic disorders] might include the belief that one passes undetectably as a woman, despite having unmistakably masculine physical characteristics; that one has a ‘‘female brain’’ in one’s male body, despite having male-typical interests and attitudes; that eroticism had nothing to do with one’s gender transition, despite an extensive history of cross-gender fetishism; and that one is exclusively sexually attracted to men, despite a past history of attraction to, and sexual activity with, women.

Sadly, Dr. Lawrence then goes on to validate the narcissistic rage of autogynephiles as an “effective response for reconstituting a damaged sense of self” and advises “sensitive, respectful treatment” that is exactly the same as enabling their false beliefs so they won’t punch you out, get you fired, threaten your children, and destroy your life.

Dr. Lawrence gave this advice in the context of validating why autogynephiles led a years-long campaign against psychologist J. Michael Bailey due to their objections to his book published in 2003, The Man Who Would Be Queen.

Dr. Bailey traced the life trajectories of three effeminate males: a gender dysphoric boy who grew up to be a masculine gay man, a homosexual transsexual prostitute, and an autogynephile. A group of autogynephiles tried to get him fired, fabricated claims to get him stripped of his license to practice, and published photos of his young children online with threats. Miraculously, medical historian Alice Dreger proved the charges were bogus and saved Dr. Bailey’s career.

The truth about why autogynephiles demand access to women’s restrooms

Autogynephiles aren’t forcing their way into women’s restrooms because they just have to pee. Autogynephiles want into women’s restrooms because simply crossing the threshold sexually arouses them.

Autogynephiles want into women’s restrooms because being there lets them think real women accept them there as women, therefore they are women. The truth is those women read him as a man who will beat them senseless if they point out he’s a man.

Autogynephiles want into women’s restrooms because if they can establish in law a right to be there, penis intact, fetishes ignored, that defines them legally and socially as women.

And above all, autogynephiles are men who want inclusion in the definition of women to fulfill their sexual fantasies no matter how many women they have to exclude from it, or what they have to do to get there.

 

Cynthia Yockey covers transgender issues for DANGEROUS and is the author of War in the Women’s Room: How to Get Men in Dresses Out of Women’s Spaces, Save Your Children from Confusion About Their Sex, and Undo the Transgender Coup, forthcoming from DANGEROUS Books.

She came out as a lesbian in 1971 as a student at the University of Michigan and became a fiscal conservative and registered Republican in 2008. Yockey’s research and independent jouranlism is funded entirely by readers. 

be feminine they said

Gender is a performance & is fluid.
Sex is biological & fixed.
Femininity is a gender performance.
Women can choose to do what we want regardless of whatever performance is in fashion at the time.

“Be feminine they said.
Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.

Be feminine they said.
Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly. You’re wearing too much make up

Be feminine they said.
Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so uptight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.

Be feminine they said.
Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind. You’ll change your name and give them his. What’s a family without a single name?

Be feminine they said.
Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at
strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no. Have a life of your own, but not at night alone.

Just “be feminine” they said.”

– Authors Unknown (women have added to it as it gets passed on)

This is the talk by Meghan Murphy given at the Vancouver, B.C. Public Library on January 10, 2019. Meghan Murphy is the editor of Feminist Current .

The video begins at 20:38

Here is an article from The Justice Center for Constitutional Freedom about the talk.

Meghan Murphy speaks to packed room at Vancouver Public Library after intervention by Justice Centre

Canadian Feminist Meghan Murphy spoke to a sold-out crowd of 300 people at the Vancouver Public Library last night, despite demands for censorship by hostile opponents who disagree with Ms. Murphy’s views on transgenderism.

Meghan Murphy is the founder and editor of Feminist Current, a popular Canadian feminist website.  A resident of Vancouver, Murphy regularly engages in public discourse on the subjects of sex, sexuality, and gender.  She holds a Master’s degree from Simon Fraser University. She has become known internationally for her coverage of women’s issues, including the Vancouver waxing cases in which female aestheticians working out of their homes refused to wax the testicles of a local Vancouverite who sometimes identifies as a woman. In that case, the Justice Centre represented one of the women accused of discrimination on the basis of “gender identity and expression” at the BC Human Rights Tribunal. The case was withdrawn.

Read more HERE.

 

This is the transcript of her talk from Feminist Current:

Meghan Murphy on gender identity and women’s rights at the Vancouver Public Library

The following is an edited transcript of a speech given by Meghan Murphy on January 10, 2019, at the Vancouver Public Library. The event was called, “Gender Identity and Women’s Rights,” and can be watched in full on YouTube.

First of all, I think that it’s important to acknowledge how brave you all have been just in showing up tonight. Considering what those who dare to even ask questions about — never mind put forward criticisms of — gender identity ideology and legislation are subjected to, and considering the level of bullying aimed at this event specifically, I think that the fact that you are all here sends a powerful message, which is that people still believe in free speech, democracy, critical thought, and debate.

Despite bullying from trans activists and despite the fact that the Vancouver Public Library — a government-run public institution that is subject to the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, including an obligation to protect and uphold section 2(b), freedom of expression — worked very hard to have this event cancelled, we sold out. And we’re all here, at 9:30PM on a Thursday night. Thank you.

I do want to remind everyone also that a primary purpose and core value of public libraries is access. So, the universal mission of libraries is to provide equitable access to information and to facilitate and protect the right to freely pursue knowledge. Yet, our public library made intentional choices to attempt to limit access to this event; by forcing us to change the time to a rather ridiculous hour on a weeknight; by imposing excess security fees; and by smearing myself, my website, and this event.

In November, after calls from trans activists for the VPL to cancel this event (because god forbid we discuss legislation that has enormous implications for us all but most particularly for women and girls), Chief Librarian Christina de Castell issued a statement on Twitter saying that the VPL has zero tolerance for discrimination and does not agree with the views of Feminist Current. She did not explain what she believed the views of Feminist Current were, nor did she specify which of those supposed views she disagreed with. But, considering the bulk of what’s been produced and published on Feminist Current over the years is aimed at addressing male violence against women and challenging practices, laws, and behaviours that perpetuate dehumanization and naturalize exploitation of women and girls, I wonder if we should just go ahead and assume that Christina de Castell and the library are ideologically opposed to the feminist movement.

In her statement, she also said, “We recognize that Meghan Murphy’s opinions are concerning.” And perhaps I do have some concerning opinions… I think that cats make bad pets… (The most controversial issue tonight, I’m sure! We can talk about it in the Q&A…) I am in favour of a full ban on cilantro… I believe in ghosts… But, we were offered no explanation in terms of which of my opinions are concerning, so it could be any of those things.

Nonetheless, the library did make clear that they are not in a position to censor free speech that doesn’t violate the criminal code. And, despite what trans activists claim, it is not illegal to understand and state that biological sex is real, and that it matters. Which is essentially what me and other women have been smeared, threatened, and no-platformed for saying.

It’s also not illegal to understand that a woman is an adult human female.

It is not illegal to defend women’s transition houses and to argue that when women are escaping male violence they should have access to spaces that make them feel safe, where they can speak to women who understand what it’s like to grow up female in this world, and where they can be assured they won’t be made more vulnerable by having to share a room with a man.

It is not illegal to understand that male bodies and female bodies are different, and that women and girls have the right to compete in sports under fair terms, against other women and girls and not against men, who would in most cases have an unfair advantage due to things like differences in bone mass, bone structure, bone density, the size of their organs like the heart and lungs, and so on and so forth.

It’s not illegal in Canada for lesbians to limit their choices in intimate partners to women only and to refuse sexual partners with penises.

It’s not illegal to demand that our government consider the implications of policies that allow anyone at all to self-identify as women, and to consult the public on these pieces of legislation and policies.

It’s not illegal for women to want access to changerooms free from men. It is not illegal to think critically, to ask questions, and to explore ideas.

It should not be “difficult” for the library to “accept a rental” from those they disagree with, because a library of all places should be the first to support the freedom of expression, and the last to take a public position against our free speech — the free speech of women, of feminists, and of the general public. Despite the fact that the library did keep our booking, I do want to be clear that what they have done and said publicly with regard to this event was wrong, and it was dangerous, and it’s not something that any one of us should accept. This is not just about the issue of gender identity, it is about all of us, it is about to democracy, and ,at the risk of sounding hyperbolic, it is about preventing fascism.

Before we get any further into the meat of this particular issue and debate, I want to define my terms. One of the most frustrating things about this conversation is that we’re often all speaking very different languages, and those who promote gender identity ideology and legislation often refuse to define their terms in a coherent way, which makes genuine conversation quite difficult.

So, when I say “sex” I am referring to biology — whether an individual is male or female. I define a man as an adult male human, and a woman as an adult female human. This is how most of the world for most of history has understood the terms “man” and “woman.”

When I say “gender,” what I mean is the stereotypes and social roles imposed on males and females based on their sex. This is what I mean when I talk about femininity and masculinity. So, ideas we’re told or that we hold in our society about what men and women should be, the social norms we are expected to adhere to, how we should dress, the kinds of jobs we should have, how we should act, what we should look like, what our personality traits should consist of, etc.

When I say “trans activist,” I’m not specifically or necessarily talking about trans-identified people. I’m talking about any person who promotes and supports gender identity ideology and legislation.

When I say “gender identity ideology” or “transgender ideology,” I mean the idea that it’s possible for a person to be born in the wrong body, or that it’s possible for a person to change sex.

When I talk about “gender identity legislation,” I’m referring to legislation that allows people to self-identify as any sex that they want, and to access facilities, spaces, political positions, jobs, grants, universities, and sports competitions on that basis.

I do not use the term “cis,” which is a word created by trans activists to refer to people whose “gender identity matches their sex.” This is because I do not have a gender identity. In fact, no one does. We have bodies and we have personalities, and my personality is not a set of stereotypes. And I refuse to define myself as a set of stereotypes that have been used to defend sexist practices and beliefs throughout history.

I am not, as so many trans activists claim, a biological essentialist. I believe boys should be able to play with dolls and wear dresses if they like. I think they can be just as sensitive and emotional as girls. I think that girls should be able to play with trucks, and roughhouse, and cut their hair short, and refuse to wear dresses. I think that girls can be rational, assertive, and adventurous.

I don’t believe that any person should be discriminated against or harassed because they step outside the gender stereotypes laid out for us and enforced on us in so many ways. And, in fact, as a feminist, I think they should be encouraged to step outside those stereotypes.

What is incredibly ironic about this debate and the way that feminists who challenge transgender ideology are positioned is that feminists have always taken an incredibly liberal, liberatory position on gender. We want people to be free to be themselves, and not feel pressure to adopt masculine or feminine stereotypes.

Yet, we are the ones in this debate who are accused of being conservative or regressive. This, coming from people who say that any boy who loves frilly pink dresses cannot possibly be just a boy who likes frilly pink dresses, but must reallybe a girl, which of course plays into a long history of bullying boys who step out of gender norms by accusing them of being girls.

I don’t know for certain why our arguments and ideas are misrepresented so drastically by our opponents, but I would guess that it’s because our opponents are not able to make counter-arguments in good faith, so have no other option, in terms of winning, except to lie, bully, and smear.

Today, we’re all told that if we don’t accept the notion that biological sex is determined by an individual’s feelings, preferences, or desires, that we’re bigoted, or that we’re fascist, or that we deserve to be arrested or killed.

Indeed, countless people — mostly men — have sent violent threats to me online for saying what I’m saying today. Organizers of this event received a number of violent, sexualized, misogynist threats through Eventbrite. An individual named Jonathan/Jessica Yaniv recently took credit publicly for personally having me banned from Twitter, and also publicly stated that I have “committed hate crimes” and that I “organized a hate rally” (referring to this event specifically).

This is all because I believe males and females are real, because I believe women’s rights and spaces should be protected, because I believe women have the right to boundaries, and because I ask questions about terms like “transgender” and about the implications of legislation rooted in nonsensical, regressive ideology.

We still don’t know what defines a trans person. We don’t know what makes a male “actually a woman.” Is it surgery? Hormones? Clothing? Makeup? A preference for long hair? There is, to date, no coherent definition of transgender. It can be literally anything or anyone. It is nothing more than a statement, and it is unverifiable. To create legislation around something so vague and undefinable seems odd to me, if not dangerous.

According to Justice Canada and the Ontario Human Rights Code, gender identity is defined as “a person’s internal or individual experience of their gender.” But how a person experiences or feels about or analyzes gender or gender roles does not literally change their sex.

I am told that saying these kinds of things “hurts people’s feelings,” and that therefore I may not say them. But, if we’re going to talk about feelings, why is it that women’s feelings are being ignored in all of this? Why is it that women’s feelings about whether or not they have to share a change room with a man don’t matter? What about the feelings of girls who don’t want to see a dick when they’re changing for gym class? What about the feelings of women who’ve been victimized by men and don’t want to share a room in a transition house with a man? And what about the feelings of women who are being made to compete against men in sports?

Just last month, a male who identifies as a woman named Christina Ginther sued a Minnesota women’s football league after a team barred him from playing. The news media reported that Ginther was not allowed to play because he was trans, but that’s not true. It’s because he’s male. He has a male body, and it’s not fair to the women playing in the league to have to play against a man. The league told Ginther they don’t allow players who are born biologically male because of safety issues. This is the kind of rule that should make sense to anyone who actually cares about and respects women’s right to play sports safely and fairly, who isn’t interested in trampling the rights of others because of their own personal preferences and desires. But gender identity ideology and legislation say that these women don’t matter, that this one man’s feelings matter more.

In Toronto, a woman named Kristi Hanna filed a human rights complaint against the Jean Tweed Center, which runs Palmertson House, a shelter for female recovering addicts, after she was told she had to share a room with a man claiming to be a woman. She said that this man looked like a man, talked like a man, had a beard, was “wearing big combat boots,” and that he hadn’t had any sex-change surgeries. But he was admitted to the Palmerston House anyway. When she and some other women complained about his presence to the staff, the response was, “We’re inclusive.” This, to a woman who’s been sexually assaulted multiple times by men, who suffers from PTSD and insomnia, on top of struggling with substance abuse issues, and who felt so triggered and unsafe upon this man’s arrival and placement in her room that she had to leave her room at the shelter to go stay elsewhere, because she was so stressed she couldn’t sleep. What about this woman’s feelings?

What about the feelings of the 14 female estheticians who were asked to give a male a Brazilian bikini wax, then dragged to court when they declined?

None of this is about “transphobia.” It is about men, and it is about women having the right to say no to men, to not be gaslit and bullied for daring to put their own safety, rights, and feelings first.

We are now at a place where we are not only allowing men to dictate what a woman is, but to destroy hard-fought-for rights won by feminists, very quickly, without any public debate. We are putting women and girls in danger in order to avoid offending the feelings of a tiny minority of people, without a public debate. We are allowing women to be fired, threatened, harassed, smeared, silenced, intimidated, ostracized, and even beaten in order to accommodate the feelings of men. This is what’s actually happening, and I don’t care if this is shocking for some of you here, because it’s true, and I refuse to accept or repeat lies under threat, especially lies that are clearly hurtful.

We can support people’s rights and dignity, and provide them with the services they need without lying and without throwing women under the bus.

There is no need for women’s rights if women don’t exist, and if the source of their oppression is not their sex, but their feelings about femininity. No matter how a woman feels about gender, she will still experience this world as female.

Those who are speaking out about and asking questions about gender identity are not doing so to be cruel. They are not doing so because they’re hateful. They are doing so because they have real, genuine concerns that deserve to be taken seriously and addressed. And if you’re going to do everything in your power to bully and silence people who have those concerns, to tell women that advocating for their own rights makes them hateful, that your beliefs are the only beliefs that matter, and that those who don’t share your beliefs should be arrested or killed, then what is clear is that you are the fascist, you are the hateful, close-minded, oppressive one.

So, you are all free to disagree with anything I say here. You are free to share your opinions, you are free to believe whatever you like, whether it’s that the earth is flat, or that cats are great pets, but you don’t have the right to impose those beliefs on others under threat of violence or a jail sentence. You don’t have the right to threaten me, silence me, or criminalize me for telling the truth.

 

 

 

 

I don’t have a problem with  gender non-conformity, I have a problem with liars, opportunists and predators.

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