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Tips for ‘coming out’ as Gender Critical

Reblogged from ‘Perspicats’

Tips for ‘coming out’ as Gender Critical

Whatever walk of life you come from you are likely to encounter some resistance to your new found (or newly open) gender critical thinking. As most of us arrive at this viewpoint from a place of feminism and compassion we have most likely surrounded ourselves by people who have been exposed to a number of lies regarding gender, peddled by the Trans Activist Lobby or Liberal Feminists. These people are likely to be shocked at your viewpoint.

  • Embrace your allies. Join meetup groups, Facebook groups, attend events. It can feel lonely if your immediate friends and family don’t ‘get’ it, even if they don’t disagree. The radical feminists that I’ve met have become my close friends – if you agree on this you’ll likely find you’ve got common views on other issues.
  • Be wary of social media. Whilst quietly discussing this issue with family, friends, colleagues, you may find it easy to have a civilised discussion. However, do not expect the same reaction on social media. Remember that everything you write on social media is permanent, even a deleted post could have been screenshotted. Don’t write anything that you will later regret. Nice people can become very aggressive on social media, so be prepared for your reserved acquaintances to suddenly call you a TERF, transphobe, or bigot.
  • Be aware of gas lighting. Sometimes being gender critical can cause you to doubt your own sanity. We know the definition of Man and Woman, we know that gender roles are stereotypes not descriptions of innate qualities and yet TRAs are telling us the opposite.
  • Don’t expect support from everyone. Most of us have lost a few friends over this. Hopefully not close friends but be prepared for the worst. Something which can become very frustrating is the silence from people who agree with you. Remember that you have chosen this battle knowing the consequences and some people may not be in a place to openly support you, don’t resent them for that.
  • Avoid burnout. Campaigning on this issue can be emotionally as well as physically exhausting. Don’t push yourself to attend every talk, every meet up, or join in every Twitter debate. Do what you can achieve within reason, save enough energy (and time of work!) for the most important tasks.
  • Try to preserve normality. This is a crucial time, women’s rights are under attack now more than any other time in recent history. However, it’s probably best not to have an apocalyptic view on this – we will win. We are encountering extremists, the vast majority of the population will agree that there is a difference between transwomen and natural born women. Once the masses find out the significance of what is happening this whole battle will become a lot easier.
  • Keep time for yourself. Read novels, exercise, meditate, listen to music – enjoy life. Embrace distractions. Preserve your mental health, it’s important for your wellbeing and your role as an activist. If you do struggle with mental health issues you can always talk to your GP or care coordinator about this. They are not paid to judge you for your political opinions, they will help look after your help.
  • Remember the Suffragettes! When women demanded votes they were on the fringes of society, they were often disowned by their family and friends. Coming out as a gender critic you may find resistance but if you genuinely believe in what you are fighting for you can be proud to be bravely going against the grain, making history by saving and progressing rights for women.

Triggered By The Tranz

24068819_10155855264799844_4081140009308796329_oI think it would be good for me to try to explain why it is that I find the Tranz issue so compelling, to the extent that I am engaging in guerrilla art acts and writing essays and letters to editors and to women’s organizations that are centering genderist ideology in their programming.

I talk about some of early impressions about gender-bending that I acquired from popular novels and movies in my first essay, Tranz Trances, Session 1  here on this blog.  I lived in a housing coop here in Iowa City that centered tranz ideology;  where we were required to state our preferred pronouns at the beginning of every business meeting. There were tranz individuals living there and I really did not think it was a harmful thing to choose to live this way.

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THIS IS SHE

But then I joined lefty art group and came in close contact with women and men who said they were the other sex, some were taking cross sex hormones, but others were not. There was one man in the group who had a female name. He was a tall, muscular, balding, blonde man in his twenties. There was unspoken social pressure that was exerted on everyone to refer to this man as “she.” I felt weird about this and went to some length to find ways to avoid having to use any pronoun. One day I was working with one of the founding members, a talented woman whom I otherwise admire, (I’ll call her “Kay”) and I felt very creepy when she referred to him as she and I knew that I was not allowed to question this in any way lest I be considered an ignorant bigot.

Now that I have done considerable research into this phenomenon I know that what “Kay” did to me is known as gaslighting.  She was fucking with my perception of physical reality in order to further her own political agenda. This incident, along with another related incident,  was what started my peak tranz moment and which massively triggered me to the point where I was compelled to speak out and take action.

I had a moment of clarity some months ago about how what “Kay” did to me was reminiscent of what my mother did to me, viv-a-vis my being sexually assaulted by my father. Recently I woke up from a dream that made the link even more explicit.  In the dream “Kay” invited me to be part of the group again and outlined projects I might like to work on.  I decided I needed to confront her about why I had left the group, but I kept chickening out. We were at a student center and one student had a sign with a half-man/half-woman image on the door to their room. I pressed on regardless with her about how it is really not possible to change your sex, let’s get rid of patriarchal gender roles, etc.  She seemed to be listening…and then I woke up.

And my first thought upon waking was that what “Kay” did to me, i.e., calling a man SHE because it was seen as the groovy new politically correct thing to do, was part and parcel of RAPE CULTURE and it’s valuation of men’s lies over women’s lived reality. And, yes, this is what happened to me as a child of a violent pedophile. He was supported and enabled by this male supremacist culture and I was silenced and vilified.

The dream was a wish-fulfillment of mine, and did not give me any hope of a resolution with this woman or with the community that has adopted tranz ideology as its transcendent value. But it did help me understand why I am so “triggered” by tranz ideology.

What the man who says he is a woman has done/is doing is not some benign action. It is not positive or brave or groovy, however trendy it may seem to be and despite having been adopted as the central thesis of the (former) Gay Liberation Movement.

Tranzing is rape culture. It is sick men with a clothing fetish and alienated self-hating women engaging in the thrill of social violation. Tranz ideology is a patriarchal poison that gives the appearance of being about liberating people from sexual bondage, but is really a psychological warfare against women, the body and the natural world. The man at the art center was violating my psychological integrity.  It was a power move on his part, a giant fuck you to me and my aging, broken down, childbearing body.

And “Kay” and the other women at the art center are colluding with psychopaths and participating in the gaslighting.  “Kay” was  protecting and enabling  this abuser to the extent that I was ostracized from the group. This is what my mother did to me when she protected my abuser and blamed me for his abuse. This is what patriarchal women do to other women to make them obey the rules that men make. “Kay” may as well be one of the women who holds down girls to scrape off their genitals or bind their feet. It’s the exact same process for the same reason, When I wrote to this group to tell them how I had been hurt and why I had some problems with tranz ideology in regard to sterilizing gender nonconforming children I was ignored.

Now that I’ve had this clarifying dream I can start to let go of my rage over this. I have been battling male supremacist violence in all it’s many chimeric forms for 65 years and I FAILED to make a dent in it. Male supremacy has led to the destruction of the entire biosphere and I am unable to stop it. My only consolation is the fact that I did speak up and I did fight back.

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Dispatch From The Ed Factory

I have finished my glorious semester at UIOWA and with it ends my college experience.  And I’m here to report that the kids have all been made insane by corporate-industrial culture. They all seem to believe that they are really just bio-machines with completely interchangeable sex bits. They are fiercely dedicated to the woman-erasing tranz cult and just about ready to kill anyone who won’t fall in line with the ideology of gender identity.

If you believe that that males and females are essentially indistinguishable from one another and that corporate chemicals. doctors and medical technology hold the magic key to ending the (patriarchally imposed) “gender binary” and that it is a moral necessity to support people who want to identify as the other sex then you also believe that is is moral and necessary to subject gender nonconforming children to these dangerous eugenic procedures. You can’t believe that it is possible for adults to change their sex without this also extending to children, since this is your definition of what it is to be human.

If you think you believe it’s possible for adults to change their sex but you wonder, somewhere in the back of your colonized mind, if maybe sterilizing gay and lesbian children could be a problem, this means you are a moral idiot who has erected a wall in your mind to protect you from the pain of cognitive dissonance and material, objective, painful reality.

And I am feeling horror as I contemplate the evil of the Good Germans all around me, gleefully joining in with the insane edicts of cross-dressing billionaires with sex change technology to sell. And fucking women over by implying we’re all just too lazy to get in line for our testosterone shots and mastectomies and so join the ranks of male privilege and freedom from rape culture.

The first pic is of a guerrilla art piece that I installed on the front door of WRAC, The Women’s (sic) Resource and Action Center on the UIOWA campus. The next pix are of tags I am considering taping on thi door. The art was removed immediately because actual females are not allowed to question tranz ideology, EVER.

 

WRAC is the sponsor of GIRLS ROCK, a music day camp for “girls” which has a pro-eugenic viewpoint about poisoning and sterilizing kids who reject patriarchal gender roles. I wrote to GIRLS ROCK about their pro-tranz policy and how that might not be such a great message to be giving to young girls, you know, “If you don’t like your body you can just go to the doctor and buy poisonous experimental chemicals and disfiguring surgery and be dependent on the medical system for the rest of your life!” GO TRANZ!!

 

 

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