Archive for the ‘detransition’ Category
This is a talk that I gave at the Iowa City Senior Center on transgenderism and the connection between cross-dressing billionaires and the mutilating surgeries that are being sold to confused kids. I draw attention to how this fad is manifesting here in the Iowa City community.
I was researching for a talk I am giving on the money behind the movement to convince kids they can be born to the WRONG BODY and I wanted to include a few titles of books on transgenderism that are aimed at children Books that can be found in the Children’s Library section at The Iowa City Public Library.
I went to the catalog page on the library’s website and typed “transgender” into the appropriate box. There are 226 articles, books and videos about transgenderism. There are 43 books and videos directed solely at children placed on the shelves of the children’s section of the library.
I then typed in the word “detransition”, given that the consequences of medical transition are severe and irreversable, I thought the library might be present all the necessary information that a child might need in order to decide whether he or she has the wrong body and needs to become a permanent medical customer for drugs and surgery, having perfectly healthy body parts removed, being made sterile…unable to have children, etc. And the only book that exists in the library that says anything at all negative about this momentous new social contagion is When Harry Became Sally by Ryan T. Anderson.
When Harry became Sally : responding to the transgender moment / Ryan T. AndersonBOOK | Encounter Books | 2018 | First American editionOur transgender moment — What the activists say — Detransition — Sex — Gender dysphoria and transgender identities — Children — Gender and culture — Public policy — Notes — Index.Can a person truly be ‘trapped’ in the wrong body? Can modern medicine really ‘reassign’ sex? What should our law say on these issues? Anderson offers a balanced approach to the policy issues, a nuanced vision of human embodiment, and a sober and honest survey of the human costs of getting human nature wrong. In doing so, he examines the grim contrast between the media’s sunny depiction and the often sad realities of gender-identity struggles. He believes the most helpful therapies focus on helping people accept and even embrace the truth about their bodies and reality.
So I leave it to you to decide for yourselves, based on this evidence, whether public institutions are deliberately abetting rapacious medical corporations in harvesting the bodies of confused kids who are being programmed to believe it is possible to be born into the “wrong body”. I have tried to bring this problem to the attention of the library in the past but of course, my calling attention to the fact that children are being experimented on with chemicals that have not been tested for long term safety in children’s developing bodies and being sterilized and having healthy body parts removed means that I am an ignorant bigoted terf who hates gay people.
FROM POSIE PARKER:
At our Washington DC a 19 year old detransitioner spoke. She describes her coercion into the cult and her ostracisation since she left.
Thanks to Rowantrees of Mumsnet for transcribing.
“My name is Sarah, I’m 19 and I just wanted to – so I just wanted to talk, it’s not really a question. Ever since I came out, in eighth grade I’ve been completely involved in radical queer and trans circles and I just wanted to talk about my experience.
So when you first come out nowadays in – every LGBT group is very … inclusive, let’s just say. It’s just – you must respect everyone. When you’re young, you’re like, OK, I mean I want to be accepted by people, it feels bad when people are mean to me, of course I don’t want to be mean to someone, right? And so if you don’t really – and everything is accepted uncritically.
I know this transman, a trans identified female, and they got a double mastectomy at 15 and had been on testosterone since they were 13 or 14, and you’re not allowed to raise questions about that because then you’re evil and sort of being in this circle where any woman who’s gender non-conforming is obviously not a woman. It’s very easy to gain that idea. I think that even older people theorising about it can understand conceptually, but being in that space it’s a very difficult mindset to get out of. And I’ve been really lucky, I have some radical feminist friends who’ve been really nice but since I discovered and understood radical feminism – I’m skipping around this story but it’s fine.
I recently lost my entire friend group. So I go to college but I lost all of my friends because they were like, actually, you having three separate opinions from me means that you’re unsafe and are equivalent to a nazi. Because obviously, saying that lesbians can have sexual boundaries is the same thing as kill all Jewish people. You know, it’s obviously the same statement. I don’t know how anyone can see it differently.
But – OK, going front to back – being part of that environment and being a lesbian and having it be not a socially acceptable thing in these spaces that are intended for same sex attracted people – it’s just extremely damaging and you start to think, well, maybe I’m not a woman. I don’t feel like a woman, I don’t look like the women around me, you know. And being a woman is deeply traumatising.
I think almost every trans female that I know, especially detransitioned women like myself – I got a double mastectomy – we are all – a lot of us are autistic and don’t fit into gender roles and don’t really understand it and we’re absolutely preyed upon in that sort of way. And almost all of us have experienced sexual trauma and just being a woman and experiencing things like that makes you disgusted with your body and not want men to think about you, not want to be – it’s just so profoundly traumatising.
And when you’re given this option of, you can escape misogyny, you can escape experiencing things like this again, even though that’s not true – women who pass as men, as soon as men find out – I mean I’m friends with a lot of other detransitioned women and a reasonable number of them pass as men in their daily lives – and as soon as someone finds out they’re going to be treated with violent misogyny, right? And so it’s a complete lie, but it’s a very enticing lie.
And even speaking about the potential side effects, even if you’re like, I support the decision that you’re making but I want you to take into account the ways that this will cause damage in a genuinely informed consent way. I mean I’m against – you know what I mean. That’s just not something that happens.
Additionally – so when I was going to get my double mastectomy after identifying as trans for four years, I just had to go to a doctor, say ‘I’m trans and I want top surgery’ and then they’re like, OK, you know, then they’ll ask me some questions about my life, but there’s no like, maybe you’re a lesbian who doesn’t want to be seen as a lesbian because you live in a homophobic area, maybe you’re dealing with – you need to deal with some sexual trauma. Maybe there’s other things, other than this sort of idea. There’s none of that, it’s just like, OK! And so then the next time they were just like, OK I’ll write a letter to your insurance saying they should pay for it.
You know, it’s just – women are really being let down, especially lesbians.
And I don’t know, it’s just very – going on what you were saying? I just feel so bad about my peers because it’s very hard to get out of. It’s such a cult-like mindset because if you talk to anyone different you are going to be excommunicated, right? You’re just not going to be allowed to interact with people. I mean it’s like my friends who just dropped me, you know, it’s really difficult – I don’t know if I’m over my time limit – I just, I don’t know, when people were saying about how it’s really hard as a young person to not be accepted by your peers – it is terrifying, it is so … scary, but it’s really an important thing because so many women I know, every lesbian I know in my day to day life who’s not a complete normie who’s never been online, has identified as trans, even if they haven’t transitioned, has previously identified as trans.
Because it’s just – being a lesbian sucks, guys.
I mean it’s wonderful once you’re able to accept it and interact with other women, but this is a terrifying societal position to occupy and I’m completely proud and out now but it’s just a really scary thing because these people who are supposed to be supporting you would rather you be anything but a lesbian.”
As the founder of this sub, I try to be laissez faire in my participation here, to encourage individuals’ freedom of speech/thought/expression. Also, my post-trans PTSD is easily triggered, so I don’t like to immerse myself in these topics.
If you want my opinion, it follows.
No. No one should “transition”. Transition isn’t real. It’s a farce, a lie. It’s dangerous and harmful. It’s unnecessary. It’s a mind game. It’s gaslighting. It’s eugenics. It’s Frankenstein “medicine”. It’s playing god. It’s based on BS research, and real research is stifled as “bigotry”. It poisons your endocrine system—which you need to survive into old age. It mutilates your body. It’s expensive. It’s painful. It hides problems at best. It’s treating a mental condition with radical physical intervention. It’s based on stereotypes and culture and feelings, all of which constantly shift over time. But your body doesn’t shift back. You (I, we, anyone) think you have dysphoria now? Wait til you’re trapped in an unnatural and unsustainable form. You think you’re dying now? Wait til they add bone scans to the blood draws, prescription supplements to the hormones, weird daily exercise regiments… You think dating is difficult now? Or looking in the mirror, or disrobing in public changing rooms, or even just presenting yourself fully clothed in public streets or daily jobs or annual family functions… You think existence is brain-wrenching and heart-shattering? You’ve no real idea, until it’s too late. And then either transition or detransition consumes your life, your mind, your bank account… Health insurance, life insurance, court decrees, passports, authorizations… Every minute I wrestle between staying the course to an eventual, supposedly impossible healing/restoration—or just ending this idiotic suffering entirely right now. Every minute. This has been my new reality now for more years than the fun or seemingly freeing parts of transition occupied.
And transition is all meaningless. It doesn’t change your sex. You don’t need to change your sex. Gender is either simply sex, or it’s personality/stereotypes/headspace/nonsense. You can wear anything, talk and move in any way, be with whomever you wish—as you are now, as you were born.
Just forget it. Wait it out. Enjoy your life. Enjoy this wondrous world. Enjoy your healthy, functional, whole body. Get a hobby. Travel. Learn. Build. You’re in the prime of your life. Extend that, don’t foil it. Please. Listen.
That’s my opinion, since you asked.
I’m not good at “treating” myself, I still have the protestant ethic attitude of self-denial that was part of my environment as a child. I know I shouldn’t eat too many sweets and so I avoid ice cream parlors and frozen yogurt shops. Last Wednesday I was coming home from a day of exploring new “wilderness” areas around the University of Iowa. I’d been out in the sun tramping the trails for several hours and as I was walking home down the Ped Mall I decided that a bowl of frozen yogurt sounded like a good idea.
I am a survivor of incest. I was held as a sexual hostage throughout my childhood by the violent pedophile who was my father. The abuse began in infancy and continued until I was able to escape at age 16 when I ran away to Canada. I am hyper-alert to body language, to subtle cues of voice, intonation, to the patterns of speech and the way that men and women move, the differences in the shapes of shoulders and hips, the hands, the neck. I have to know these things in order to keep myself safe. My body knows instinctively that male bodies are a potential source of danger to me. I can’t turn this sense off…it is hardwired by all of the beatings and rapes I have received at the hands of men that began so early in my life. This is not transphobia or bigotry, this is gut-level biological survival.
At the counter of the yogurt stand was a person who appeared at first to be a 13 year old boy, complete with short, slicked back hair, narrow shoulders, a shadow of a mustache and a breaking adolescent voice. After the first sentence this young woman uttered I knew immediately that she was in her late teens/early twenties, taking testosterone and pretending to be a boy. T-voice is extremely distinctive. I have heard it in the voices of several young women who decided to detransition. The voice change is permanent for girls and women who medically transition.
The other cues I picked up on were the tangible sense of anxiety and tension that exuded from her and the detached, mechanical way she kept repeating the same sentence to every customer as they paid for their treat, “Have a nice nice night!” she called out in that odd voice that sounded as if she’d been huffing balloon gas. It was strange because it was 3 in the afternoon. Anyway, I felt uncomfortable sitting there because I knew something about this woman that she thought she was keeping secret. I was also a bit concerned that she may have recognized me. This is a small community and the Tranz Cult is an even smaller clique and I have been vehemently vocal about the eugenic horror that is medical sexual reassignment.
But I was also uncomfortable because I was in the presence of a human being who had signed up for inclusion in what is essentially a cult that is based in mortification of the flesh. These mortification cults have been a staple of patriarchal religions since the beginning of male supremacy. They express the core of the body-hatred that is a fundamental aspect of the slave religions of patriarchy. I believe these cults arise in times of increased social duress as a way to cement one’s sense of identification with a group in the face of an uncertain future – which is certainly the case in an age of peak oil and climate chaos. These poor kids think they have invented some kind of brand new revolutionary gender theology, when really the Tranz Cult is an outgrowth of the bondage and discipline scene, which is a leftover from The Inquisition, i.e., the torture and murder of witches and other heretics. The message is that the sex hierarchy WILL BE ENFORCED. If you don’t fit the stereotype you can join the Tranz and buy yourself a new “meat costume” and act out the opposite sexist stereotype. So progressive!
Mortification of the flesh is meant to achieve salvation. Saved from the fate of growing up female in a world that tortures and exploits females. And otherwise progressive and intelligent people support this insanity and vilify women like me who try to alert the public to what is happening to kids as a result of the gender identity ideology cult nonsense. Nobody has EVER been born into the “wrong body.” Only a viciously body-and-woman-hating culture could dream up this kind of sadomasochistic crap.